Here's a tough one; I imagine one of the toughest. I slept with someone who I believed was on contraception (though I

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Customer: Hi. Here's a tough one; I imagine one of the toughest. I slept with someone who I believed was on contraception (though I did not clarify), and who said they could not conceive (and we are also both older). Now she is a few weeks' pregnant. She is uncertain of her intentions. For a multitude of reasons, I have no interest in having any responsibilities in raising a child in this situation. Horrible situation. What are my rights here? Thanks.
JA: What steps have you taken? Have you filed any papers in family court?
Customer: None. We have only discussed options privately.
JA: Family law varies by state. What state are you in?
Customer: Sorry, I thought this was a NZ-based site?
JA: Anything else you want the Lawyer to know before I connect you?
Customer: that about sums it up i think!
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I am a New Zealand lawyer based in Wellington and will help you with your question today. Please give me a minute to read the question

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That is a difficult situation, but fathers cannot do anything about this situation-there are cases where the court has said this and therefore you will need to wait and see if the mother will consider options such as abortion. You cannot force her to do that.

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Thank you Chris. The situation is still being discussed between us. I do not like the idea of 'abandoning' a child (or its mother) but I am also realistic of the emotional and financial burden and think having a child would be a mistake. As my intentions have been clear from the start, is there anything I can do to help my rights, should a child be born? Regards
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You can ensure you are placed on the birth certificate and you can then claim parenting rights such as contact with the child or even shared parenting

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horrible as it sounds) should I desire to have nothing to do with it?
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If you do not go on the birth certificate then you are not laible for child support nor do you have the parenting rights. However she could bring a paternity claim against you subsequently

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Thank you Chris for your assistance. Finally, is there anything I can do to support my position in any argument we may have regarding the level of child support payments? I certainly don't want the child neglected, but I'm also aware she has considerable support and the default IRD allocated from me would be considerable. Thanks.
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