My sister is a felon and was in the process of stealing my Mothers property in state before she had to serve a year in

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Customer: My sister is a felon and was in the process of stealing my Mothers property in Washington state before she had to serve a year in jail. My mother had the start of dementia and could not take care of herself, and was left with a caregiver hired by my sister that was only there Monday thru Friday. I left New York and was horrified at the condition my Mom was left in. My sister had also changed Moms will before she left leaving everything to her. She took half of Moms Social Securiry and put into an account in her name unbeknownst to Mom. She also is a secondary person on Moms account that she had for years and drained it. She did all these things without being the durable power of attorney, as I was. She had that changed to her name when she changed the will.
JA: Can you tell me what state this is in? And just to clarify, what paperwork has been filed?
Customer: Part 2: this is in the state of Washington. While she was in jail I sold Moms property, put the money in a trust for her care, changed Moms will back to her original wishes, reinstated my brother and I as the durable Power of attorneys and am in the process of getting myself named as social security payee. My sister got out of jail March 17, 2021 and attacked Mom and I for selling Moms property claiming it was hers. Mom no longer wanted to live with her due to abuse in which resulted in a domestic violence against her in 2017. When covid hit, my sister refused to leave and we waited to sell moms property when she went to jail in May 2020. We had to go to court and get restraining orders, and my sister is living at a friend's under probation for DWI (this is her 4th and she served time twice before). She has had no contact with Mom and I but she is harassing me specifically for stealing her life. I am a creative facilitator working with Veterans with PTSD and I am a professional musician. She has tried to steal jobs from me, defamed me as a thief, liar and using Moms dementia to steal her life. She was living on Moms property to help her but it turned out Mom enabled her with paying for bails, rehab, lawyers and counseling. She cut my sister out after the domestic violence but my sister denies it happened and found ways to continue living off Mom. My question is, how do I protect myself? Does restraining orders cover social media and her going to the organizations I work with as well as friends and family tearing down my good reputation I worked so hard for. Also she is going into bars to play music and has bad mouthed me to my colleagues. Should this be reported to her parole officer? I thought a DWI offense means you can't go to a bar to work or hang. Also family members have been reporting she's drinking. My life is hell because of her tactics and I just need to know how I can stop her attacks on me, and do it legally.
JA: What documents or supporting evidence do you have?
Customer: I have the court restraining orders for Mom and I against her. I have her arrest records for DWIs, breaking of probation, and the domestic abuse. I have videos of the abuse, and I have texts from family concerned over my safety due to her attacking me. I have the will she changed, and my mothers lawyer has represented us in court for the restraining anti harrassment orders. The lawyer also had Mom speak alone to change the will back, and to create the trust. Next week I will have the Social Security payee work done, and I will report to them my sister stealing Moms Social Security and acting as a caregiver when she's a felon. I need to know how to protect myself as I havevMom safe and cared for, but even with my restraining order she is making untrue allegations that is hurting my career and damaging my reputation.
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Customer: I have covered what I've done to protect my mother through her lawyer. I moved to Washington from New York and have no legal reputation here. I can't afford a lawyer so I'm looking for assistance on what my rights are as a person with a restraining order and anti harrassment order, as she is constantly harassing me and defaming me to friends and family. I feel unsafe and I also need to know how she can go to bars or places I work when on probation for a felony/dwi. Before I get legal assistance, I want to know how I am protected from my sister as apparently it's a civil issue. That's why we got the restraining orders.
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Good evening. I'm Ed, I'm a lawyer with JustAnswer.  I'm reviewing your inquiry now :)
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I'm really sorry to hear about everything that has been going on.  Also, sorry to learn of your Mom's health :(

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Ed Hastings, Expert

Just to clarify, you and your mom have restraining orders and anti-harassment orders against your sister right now?  Is your sister in New York?

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No she is in Washington state and I have moved from New York to Washington to aid my mom.
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I will be going to work but will check in so please be patient with my late responses.
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No problem. I'm going to be out and about soon so I also may respond slow this evening.

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If she is still communicating with you either in person, by phone, or through social media that is a violation of the restraint oder and she can be arrested. Just make sure there is proof of the violation.  While she is on probation for DWI, one of the conditions of probation is most likely that she cannot be around alcohol or establishments that serve alcohol. So she is probably in violation of probation.  Just make sure that if you report it you have proof. There may also be a case for fraud regarding your mom's finances.  Thank you for looking out for your Mom!

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She has not communicated or seen Mom and I in person. She has gone around to friends and family destroying my reputation saying I'm using Moms dementia. I have texts from them and messages.
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There's probably no violation yet unless she communicates with you directly.  There may be a case for defamation.  One way to deal with that is to contact a local lawyer to send a demand letter to her to stop spreading lies, if she continues then she could be sued for defamation.  A demand letter is much cheaper and faster than a lawsuit.  A great resource to find a local civil lawyer that handles defamation cases is Avvo.com.  I feel bad for you, and feel especially bad for your Mom :(

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