If a man has stalked me trying to get my attention for twenty years and has attempted to get other men to date me - and

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Customer: If a man has stalked me trying to get my attention for twenty years and has attempted to get other men to date me - and will not take no as an answer and retaliates with violence is that domestic violence?
JA: Have domestic violence charges been filed? If so, when is the next court date?
Customer: May 5 and May 7
JA: In what state did the domestic violence occur?
Customer: California
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Customer: I am an attorney who is overwhelmed by the extraordinary resources applied against me and triangulation
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Hello, I'll be trying to help you answer your question. While I am a licensed attorney, I am not your attorney for the purposes of this matter and attorney-client confidentiality and privilege do not apply. I will do my best to answer you quickly, but please bear with me if it is taking me a while, as I sometimes need to do research to make sure I am giving you the best information possible.
First off, I want to say how sorry I am to hear of what has been done to you. It is unacceptable for a man to act like that, and I hope he gets what is coming to him. I'll do my best to assist you.
Under CA law, I don't think that would likely reach the definition of domestic violence, unless you and he: "are or have been in an intimate relationship (married or domestic partners, are dating or used to date, live or lived together, or have a child together). It is also when the abused person and the abusive person are closely related by blood or by marriage."
That said, it likely rises to the level of harassment and s=talking, which is also a serious offense:

In general, civil harassment is abuse, threats of abuse, stalking, sexual assault, or serious harassment by someone you have not dated and do not have a close relationship with, like a neighbor, a roommate, or a friend (that you have never dated). It is also civil harassment if the abuse is from a family member that is not included in the list under domestic violence. So, for example, if the abuse is from an uncle or aunt, a niece or nephew, or a cousin, it is considered civil harassment and not domestic violence.

The civil harassment laws say “harassment” is:

Unlawful violence, like assault or battery or stalking, or

A credible (real) threat of violence, and

The violence or threats seriously scare, annoy, or harass someone and there is no valid reason for it.

“Credible threat of violence” means intentionally saying something or acting in a way that would make a reasonable person afraid for his or her safety or the safety of his or her family. A “credible threat of violence” includes following or stalking someone, making harassing calls, or sending harassing messages, by phone, mail, or e-mail, over a period of time (even if it is a short time)."

It sounds like you have upcoming court dates, so I hope you will be getting a Civil Harassment Restraining Order.
If you are overwhelmed by this, may I suggest contacting a Legal Assistance Organization or using a Lawyer Referral Service? I know many lawyers who have had to hire a lawyer before when there was too much for them to handle, so perhaps you can find one to help you, too.
I hope you find that information useful. Please let me know if I need to clarify antyhing. I wish you the best of luck, and hope justice is doen.

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