I found drug paraphernalia in The garbage that does not belong to me my fiancé ex husband. Feels it mine and is forcing

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Customer: I found drug paraphernalia in The garbage that does not belong to me my fiancé ex husband. Feels it mine and is forcing her to leave me or he going to take he to family court to take the kids
JA: What steps have you taken? Have you filed any papers in family court?
Customer: No. We talked with the ministry of child services and her family lawyer from when they got divorced 6 years ago they all said that she entitled to her own life.
JA: Family law varies by state. What state are you in?
Customer: Bc canada
JA: Anything else you want the Lawyer to know before I connect you?
Customer: She was forced by her ex husband to contact the police and schools to say I was a bad person. As he threatened her to take the kids out of fear she did. On oct 31 her son was found bringing in people to the home blocking the camera and giving the door access codes to a friend of his which has a history of sexual assault. The son was caught lying about al it if things
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I am sorry to hear of this difficult situation.

What is your specific legal question please?

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My fiancé found condoms and drug paraphernalia in the garbage. After trying to reach out to my ex husband to co parent the issue at hand. My ex husband took my child to a polygraph and blood test to prove his innocence, I never suspected anything of him. I had no knowledge that he was taking my son for these tests. I was doing my due diligence as a parent and asking my son where the drugs came from as what I felt was the responsible approach as a mother.
Later after I seeked help from a registered counsellor, she brought attention to the fact that my fiancé may be the problem. I made the mistake of telling my ex and his sister as I was trying to figure out what was going on with my son. Without any time to process this information, my ex husband threatened me and forced me to leave my fiancé. Actually, he and his sister destroyed my relationship with my fiancé by taking control of the situation and speaking for me with out my request. My ex husband has a violent history as does the rest of his family. They told me by threatening me to take custody of my kids if I didn't listen and follow through with every step they had planned. Right down to the point of not allowing me to live in my own home. They installed a camera on my front door to monitor if my fiancé came by to set a trap for him.
He forced me to lie to my work, my children schools and police telling them the my fiancé was a bad person. The force being the threat of fear of losing my kids. On oct 31 a lot truths were revealed. My fiance was not in the picture anymore and my son was caught on front door camera blocking the camera so I couldn't see who was in my home this allowing people into my home and lied about it all, a friend with my passcode this access to my home and his friend mooning the camera. I still have the video evidence from the incident. My son and ex husband blame my fiancé for the drugs in my home with out any evidence. The actions of my son has been hard to believe but the camera footage shows the truth of how he has been Manipulating me and has in my opinion has been involved with bad people one that has a history of sexual assault and was caught taking pictures of my daughters underwear the same kid was given access codes to my home and mooning the camera saying "love lots?" To me.
Now that I'm back with my fiancé my ex husband is stating he feels unsafe with my children around my fiancé based on no reason. The amount of lies that my son has told to get his way and then just to get caught on camera really is concerning and to blame my fiancé is just wrong. My ex husband is now saying he's going to take the kids from me in court and is not currently not allowing them to return to my home. Even though there is no danger to my kids. I would never put my kids in any danger as my ex husband is trying to say. He just wants to control my life. He has told me that he going to use the emails I sent to the schools, work and police to take my kids from me even though I had just sent those out of fear of him. I have updated the schools, police and work that Chris my fiancé is not a threat and that this was another controlling tactic of my ex husband. It's been 6 years from my divorce and he just won't stop
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He has told me that he going to use the emails I sent to the schools, work and police to take my kids from me even though I had just sent those out of fear of him. I have updated the schools, police and work that Chris my fiancé is not a threat and that this was another controlling tactic of my ex husband
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Can he take my kids from me
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Debra, Expert

He isn't going to be able to take the children from you unless he can prove that the children will be harmed by living with you.

The court will make a decision based on what I find to be in the best interest of the children and will review all of the facts. The fact that he threatened you and made you afraid and forced you to send letters really just saw how sickening he is and isn't going to matter otherwise.

But, you need to own lawyer at this point in time, without a doubt.

What you can do to find a lawyer is one of the following things.

You can contact the BC Branch of the Canadian Bar Association and use their Lawyer Referral Service. You will be given the name of a lawyer and can consult with the lawyer and the first half hour will be $25.

The number is:

***-***-**** or 1.***-***-****.

Or you can check on a site called lexpert. This is a legal directory of leading lawyers and law firms throughout Canada and is well-respected by the legal community.

Here's the link to their website:

http://www.lexpert.ca/directory/find-lawyers-or-law-firms/

Does that help as a starting point?

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You are very welcome.

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