I live in Canada, British Columbia. My daughter reached 19 yo (Age of Majority). She decided to engage in pre-martial

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Customer: I live in Canada, British Columbia. My daughter reached 19 yo (Age of Majority). She decided to engage in pre-martial sexual relations. I disapprove of that life style. I withdrew consent for her staying at my home. What are my legal rights?
JA: What steps have you taken? Have you filed any papers in family court?
Customer: No.
JA: Have you talked to a lawyer about this yet?
Customer: No.
JA: Anything else you want the Lawyer to know before I connect you?
Customer: My wife sides with my daughter's behavior.
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Debra, Expert

Hello! My name is Debra (formerly known as Legal Ease). Thank you for your question. I'm reviewing it now, and will post back again shortly.

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Having pre-marital sexual relations did not happen without side-effects negatively impacting the family and disrupting our peace and successful progress.
The 19 yo daughter has been stumbling in her school grades since grade 12. She is currently in 2nd year university and still stumbling in her grades. Her behavior infected her younger sister who is 17 yo (just finished grade 12). The younger sister has suddenly changed in grade 12 from an A-student to barely passing grade 12. The younger sister started to have pre-marital sexual relations too. The younger daughter is still a minor (17 yo) and I do not approve of her having pre-martial sexual relations.
In addition, they both have been neglecting any participation in home duties; such as cleaning their own rooms, washroom and participating in cleaning the kitchen or helping out with their 2 younger siblings.
My wife does not object to the both girls having pre-martial sexual relations. I do not wish to associate with my daughters if they chose a lifestyle of failing academic performance coupled with pre-martial sexual relations. I do not want to waste my financial resources on their wasteful decision in order to bring them to sanity.
We are running into daily unpleasant arguments over this issue that is not suitable for their younger siblings’ exposure. What are my legal options to enforce discipline in my home? I do not care that they made different life choices than my conviction but I do care to not them influencing my younger children and I do not tolerate their behavior in my home. If my minor daughter (17 yo) wishes to have the rights of an adult in making her decisions about sexual relations then she is no longer welcome under my roof. She should emancipate herself and leave my home. But both of them do not want to leave home but want to enforce on me to accept their life choices; which I do not accept.
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Debra, Expert

I am sorry to hear of this difficult situation.

However, if your spouse lives in the home and agrees that your daughter can continue to live in the home then you cannot require her to move out because your spouse has the same rights that you have to decide who can live in the home.

Do you see what I mean?

Please feel free to post back with any follow-up questions you may have. If you don't have any then I hope I have earned a 5 star rating but if you don't feel that I have please don't hesitate to reply back and let me know what more I can do to assist you. Finally, please know that even after you rate me I will be here for you and you can ask follow-up questions if you think of them later on at no further charge of course.

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I see what you mean. We are currently renting our home. My wife does some part time work. My 19-yo does also some part time work. Otherwise, I have been for the past 20 years the main income provider for my wife and 4 children. If I rent a different home from my wife, am I under any legal obligations to provide for my 2 daughters (since my wife does not earn adequate income)? One is already past legal age and the other one does not respect my guardianship.
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Debra, Expert

If you separate from your spouse and the 19-year-old continues to live with your spouse then you will have to pay your spouse child support so long as a the 19-year-old attends school full-time.

Customer
Ok. So you are telling me I have no legal recourse against the 19 yo. She can run amok as long as my wife does not want to kick her out. But how about the 17 yo? Is she allowed to have pre-marital sexual relations while she is minor without parental permission? I was under the impression that the law stats that having a sexual relation with a minor is criminal offense (statutory rape)? How about drinking alcohol? Is it allowed that a 17 yo drinks alcohol? What disciplinary rights do I have as a parent of a minor (17 yo) who is failing in her grades and fancying about sex and alcohol (copying her older sister behavior)?
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Debra, Expert

I am sorry you are so sad and worried but your understanding of the law is not correct.

In Canada the age of consent for sexual relations is 16 years of age and less than that if the partner is less than 5 years older.

It is illegal for a minor to have alcohol.

Even if your 17-year-old has withdrawn from parental control if the mother allows her to remain at home she can.

Customer
If what you are telling me is indeed the law of the land then I will happily oblige. But let me paraphrase my question: are you telling me that as a parent I am forced legally to finance my 2 daughters who are drinking alcohol, failing in school, engaging in sexual relations, and disrespecting their home duties? Also are you sure that my permission is not required but my money is mandatory by law? I am happy to work with whatever the law is �� I have been a law-abiding citizen all my life.
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Debra, Expert

I am telling you that so long as they are minors the children have a legal right to child support and that once they have reached the age of majority if they continue to attend school full-time they still are entitled to child support.

Customer
Ok. You gave me the children legal rights. My original question was about my rights as a parent. Do I understand from your response that I have no rights in this situation? Do I have any parental disciplinary rights in the legal system? If there is any such rights (even if they are not what I imagined), let me know what they are. If there is no rights for parents then let me know that there are none.
Customer
You stated that It is illegal for a minor to have alcohol. So what a parent has to do when one finds a minor child bringing alcohol home?.
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Debra, Expert

The parent can tell the child there is no alcohol in this house.

The parent can say while you act this way you get food and clothing but that's it. We don't pay for your social life at all. We don't even pay to out with your friends to a coffee shop.

You will provide basic necessities and that is all.

Customer
Thanks for the last answer.
You stated that the age of consent for sexual relations is 16 years of age. Does that consent require parental permission? What is the legal age for marriage without parental permission? Are children allowed to have sex without parental permission at age 16 but are not allowed to marry at age 16 without parental permission?
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Debra, Expert

No parental permission is not needed for a child to be able to consent to sexual relations at 16.

Yes parental consent is needed for a marriage for a child under 19.

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